Adjust Your Lens

What I look like is not the most important thing about me. Not even close. External beauty is not what defines a person. So why do so many of us let societal pressure to attain a certain standard of beauty dictate our internal dialogue with ourselves, the way we respond to the world around us, and how we are treated by others? How many of us have criticized ourselves while standing in front of the mirror? It’s happened more times than I’d like to admit. How many of us have been hurt by the unkind words of someone who thought voicing their opinion of our appearance mattered more than our feelings? We have all been there. How many of us have let those unkind words creep in and make a home in our thoughts? And how many times have we found ourselves making comparisons, and in turn feel less than awesome about ourselves?


“You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t owe your prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female.'”
-Erin McKean

It’s about time we shove society’s expectations aside and acknowledge that we are beautiful as we are. If we allow ourselves to shift the focus and highlight our truly important attributes, just think how the lens could begin to change.

Start by being kind. Be kind to yourself, and be kind to other women. We’re all in this together. Let’s lift each other up, rather than push one another down. Let’s transform the dialogue into that of empowerment, positivism, and encouragement. Whether it’s the internal dialogue we have with ourselves, or our outward interactions with others – we can all do better. That is my goal – to build a community of women that support one another in all their pursuits and endeavors. A community of women who see one another for their true beauty, and not the superficial. And also for us to find that power within, where our beauty lies.

Beautiful Women of Wisconsin | BeYOUtiful

I can’t wait to introduce you to our first guest very soon! Until next time.

XO, Danielle


  1. gingersnapsfotos

    You are beautiful inside and out! Thank you Danielle for creating a positive image blog! Looking forward to your posts!!

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